Starting Over

I read an article that discusses the process of spouses starting over after they have been divorced. Data from a recent interview from a national survey of married people, it has been determined that once you get divorced, your probability of getting divorced again increases. Spouses in remarriages are more likely to be poorly integrated with parents and in-laws, and are more willing to leave the marriage. They don't set their standards as high as they did for their first marriage. 

Five Lessons

This week, I read an article about the five lessons divorced people learned about marriage. The first lesson was to "boost your spouse's mood". You should use affectionate language towards your spouse such as giving them compliments." By expressing love and care you build trust", says expert  Dr. Orbuch. The second lesson was to "talk more about money". Money is the number one point of conflict in the majority of marriages. 49% of divorced people say that they fought so much over money with their spouse. It would vary from different spending styles and lies about spending to one person making more money and trying to control the other..The third lesson was to "get over your past". You need to let go of jealousy from your partners past relationships. You can't let different family members get in the way of your relationship. The fourth lesson was to "blame the relationship".  The divorced individuals in the study who blamed ex- spouses, or even themselves, had more anxiety, depression and sleep disorders than individuals who blamed the way that them and their partners interacted.  The final lesson was to "reveal more about yourself". You should speak in a clam and caring voice to your spouse. When a couple argues, they should do it in a way where they come to a solution, not just create more turmoil. A healthy relationship is one where both spouses feel comfortable with revealing stuff about themselves.

Divorce in older couples

Rates have shown that the divorce rate for people 50 and over has doubled in the past two decades. Many people of this age group decide to get divorced when their kids leave for college. They may feel as if their kids were the only thing that was keeping their marriage together. Many spouses opt to go back to college in order to advance their career. Some couples think of it as a way to start fresh; going on different paths in life.