Five Lessons

This week, I read an article about the five lessons divorced people learned about marriage. The first lesson was to "boost your spouse's mood". You should use affectionate language towards your spouse such as giving them compliments." By expressing love and care you build trust", says expert  Dr. Orbuch. The second lesson was to "talk more about money". Money is the number one point of conflict in the majority of marriages. 49% of divorced people say that they fought so much over money with their spouse. It would vary from different spending styles and lies about spending to one person making more money and trying to control the other..The third lesson was to "get over your past". You need to let go of jealousy from your partners past relationships. You can't let different family members get in the way of your relationship. The fourth lesson was to "blame the relationship".  The divorced individuals in the study who blamed ex- spouses, or even themselves, had more anxiety, depression and sleep disorders than individuals who blamed the way that them and their partners interacted.  The final lesson was to "reveal more about yourself". You should speak in a clam and caring voice to your spouse. When a couple argues, they should do it in a way where they come to a solution, not just create more turmoil. A healthy relationship is one where both spouses feel comfortable with revealing stuff about themselves.