Five Lessons

This week, I read an article about the five lessons divorced people learned about marriage. The first lesson was to "boost your spouse's mood". You should use affectionate language towards your spouse such as giving them compliments." By expressing love and care you build trust", says expert  Dr. Orbuch. The second lesson was to "talk more about money". Money is the number one point of conflict in the majority of marriages. 49% of divorced people say that they fought so much over money with their spouse. It would vary from different spending styles and lies about spending to one person making more money and trying to control the other..The third lesson was to "get over your past". You need to let go of jealousy from your partners past relationships. You can't let different family members get in the way of your relationship. The fourth lesson was to "blame the relationship".  The divorced individuals in the study who blamed ex- spouses, or even themselves, had more anxiety, depression and sleep disorders than individuals who blamed the way that them and their partners interacted.  The final lesson was to "reveal more about yourself". You should speak in a clam and caring voice to your spouse. When a couple argues, they should do it in a way where they come to a solution, not just create more turmoil. A healthy relationship is one where both spouses feel comfortable with revealing stuff about themselves.

Divorce in older couples

Rates have shown that the divorce rate for people 50 and over has doubled in the past two decades. Many people of this age group decide to get divorced when their kids leave for college. They may feel as if their kids were the only thing that was keeping their marriage together. Many spouses opt to go back to college in order to advance their career. Some couples think of it as a way to start fresh; going on different paths in life.

How a divorce effects the man

I thought this video was pretty interesting. When you hear of a couple who is getting a divorce, you usually tend to try to help the woman cope with what she is going through. People don't try to help the man get through it as much, because we tend to think that men are less emotional, and move on faster. I found a video that showed the effect on divorced men. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nm12hCrKVps

How divorces effect the children

I found an article that evaluated how a divorce effects the children. A survey was done in both Great Britain and America. There was a study done to compare the behavioral problems, and test scores in English and mathematics. Children whose parents were divorced were compared to children whose parents remained intact. For boys, the effect of separation or divorce was dramatic. Their behavioral problems and academic achievement was reduced by considering behavior problems, achievement levels, and family difficulties that were present before the families had broken up. Divorce did not seem to have quite as big as an impact on girls  but still did exist.

Marriage and Family: Divorced

My topic is based on family's  in which the parents are divorced. I chose this topic because more and more family's in America are getting divorced. It doesn't  seem to be as big of an event anymore. A lot of people say that divorce rates are growing because women are becoming more independent. Instead of worrying what will happen when they are alone, they are becoming motivated to get back up on their feet.